Love in the Fast (or Slow) Lane: Navigating Differing Processing Speeds in Neurodivergent Relationships

Have you ever felt like you and your partner are operating at completely different speeds? Maybe you process conversations more slowly, needing time to reflect, while your partner is quick to respond. Or perhaps you make decisions fast, but your partner prefers to sit with all the options first.

These differences in processing speed are common in neurodivergent relationships, and while they can lead to frustration, they don’t have to be a source of conflict. By understanding each other’s communication styles and using practical strategies—like creating processing pauses, setting clear expectations around timing, and integrating co-regulation techniques—you and your partner can find a rhythm that works for both of you.

Want to navigate these differences with more confidence? Learn how to align your communication styles and strengthen your connection in my Neurodivergent Couples Intensive Therapy—a 3-hour deep dive into practical, relationship-building tools. Schedule your consultation today!