How to Communicate When Your Families Are Over-Involved: A Guide for Neurodivergent Couples

Navigating family dynamics as a neurodivergent couple can feel like an extreme sport—one where the rules keep changing, and somehow, you’re always “it.” Maybe it’s the unsolicited advice (“Have you tried just being less anxious?”), the unspoken expectations, or the guilt trips that come with setting even the smallest boundary. Whatever the case, managing family involvement doesn’t have to feel like an endless cycle of stress.

By creating a united front, using gentle but firm communication, and setting aside family-free time as a couple, you can keep your relationship strong—without getting pulled into every family drama. If navigating over-involved families feels like a full-time job, my neurodivergent couples’ intensives can help. With a mix of Gottman, IFS, and co-regulation strategies, you’ll walk away with real tools (not just wishful thinking) for setting boundaries and staying connected.

Read the full blog to learn how to protect your peace—without disowning your relatives.